Should you leave your partner after they cheated? Well you’re the only one who can ultimately make that decision for yourself, there are some tell-tale signs that it’s a better idea than not.
If you’re weighing the pros and cons, here’s a list of red flags that might mean it’s not worth staying together.
Relationship work takes many forms, from talk therapy to changing the dynamic of a relationship. Your relationship will only work post-infidelity if your partner is willing to show you, over time, that they care about your feelings and won’t hurt you again.
“It’s not the words ‘I’m sorry’ that soothes the other person and allows them to feel safe in the relationship again,”More than anything, the hurt party wants us to listen carefully to their feelings, to validate their reality, to feel genuine regret and remorse, to carry some of the pain we’ve caused, and to make reparations as needed.”
If you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that your partner has cheated on you but they refuse to admit it, or they downplay the details, this isn’t a good sign.
“Spouses repeatedly tell me that what made them leave the relationship wasn’t the affair — it was the drip, drip, drip of the truth that slowly leaked out over a long period of time,”
Some people who hurt you will never apologize and the worse the harm, the less likely an apology will ever be forthcoming
The cheater can’t or won’t disclose why they cheated.
The cheater blames their actions on something other than themselves.